Value God’s Special Blessings

By Kit R. Olsen

Especially for Teens, Young Adults and All Those Who Love Them

When I started editing and preparing Todd’s Nearing Midnight article titled, “The New Morality and the Walk of Shame” published the week of December 15, 2014, his subject matter immediately made me think of a section in my most recent book.

I have been swamped with preparing article submissions for the last two plus months; more than RR has ever received in the months of November and December, even into January; so I decided to hold off with this article until now. (It doesn’t look like submissions are slowing down anytime soon!)

The failing moral climate goes beyond the secular world.

Integrity in all aspects of society is sorely lacking. Sadly, even some professing Christians use foul language, have a manipulative spirit of competitive jealousy, misrepresent situations to further their own self-elevating agendas, create division and spread slanderous lies. Shameful. (And in their next breath praise Jesus with a smile, boldly and hypocritically declaring their allegiance to Him!)

“They profess to know God, but in works they deny Him, being abominable, disobedient, and disqualified for every good work” (Titus 1:16).

“If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth” (1 John 1:6).

“Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18).

We truly are living in the time Paul described in 2 Timothy 3:2-5:

“For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!”

The following is extracted from Part Two - Jesus Wants You to Spend Eternity with Him, from King of Kings and Lord of Lords - Heralding His Soon Return.

Think on Virtuous Things

“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9).

What a treasure it is to save your most intimate-self for the special one that God has in mind for you. Promiscuity, in this morally depraved culture has become the norm but carries with it lifelong heartaches. Choose to rise above the crowd and walk away from any type of relationship that entices you to engage in sexual relations outside a strong marriage bond. Choose wisely who you spend time with and who you trust.

Choose your friends carefully. It is better to have one good friend you can trust instead of a room full of “party” types who do not care anything about you and have no respect for themselves, either. Find friends who love the Lord and with whom you can share your faith.

If you find yourself feeling lonely and like the whole world is falling apart around you because of the overwhelming negativity and wretched moral standards, realize that all true born-again believers are promised a wonderful future in a place where only King Jesus will rule and all the disappointments you may be feeling now—will be gone forever.

This is not our true home. This world is very temporary and we are getting closer each day to the Lord’s soon return. Be sure you belong to Him and you are guaranteed by God Himself to have a glorious eternal future. Keep your heart and mind focused on Jesus and He will carry you through any challenge. Let Him be your best friend.

Especially for the Young Ladies

I know of a young woman, Elizabeth, raised by a godly mother. She grew-up reading the Bible and was taught how to behave in an orderly, respectful manner. When she was still a young teen, a group of girls from her school invited her to a get-together one evening. Her friends had managed to gather together some alcohol and were ready to tell some lies to their parents so they could stay up all night.

The girls planned to go out and about town to bars and nightclubs wearing very short tight-fitting skirts, high heels and flashy overdone make-up. They even had a very short skirt and a pair of high-heeled shoes set-aside for Elizabeth. These rebellious and confused teens thought the seductive ads in all the magazines were the thing to follow.

Elizabeth had no idea that her friends had planned a night of trouble. She told them she would not lie to her mother and would not participate in their devious sordid little plan to go out carousing all night long around town. She urged them not to go out and place themselves in harm’s way. From that point on those “friends” treated Elizabeth very rudely, and deliberately snubbed her at school and around town.

She also wisely knew that dressing seductively and cheaply would do nothing but hurt her and attract the wrong type of admirers. All the magazines that promote risqué clothing and loose living are breaking down the moral fiber of society—while making lots of money for themselves and their advertisers. Since Elizabeth had a good, solid foundation in Christ she stood by her principles.

Years later the girls who thought they were so “cool” all got into some kind of trouble and regretted their wild reckless behavior. But Elizabeth went on to college and made some good Christian friends, met a very special guy who also loves the Lord and is now her best friend. She is well-grounded in the Lord and on her way to achieving a meaningful purpose in her life. She is about to get a marriage proposal. Elizabeth is the girl to emulate, not her confused and devious former girlfriends.

Today’s culture does very little to show a young woman how to behave like a young lady, with the rare exception of the mentoring from a caring parent, family member, teacher or friend.

Few role models exist today who act ladylike. Even some women who call themselves Bible believing Christians use crass, foul language and tell off-color “jokes.”

And I have seen women who are professing Christians publicly guzzle wine, glass after glass only to order an entire bottle and continue drinking. This type of behavior cheapens women and weakens their testimony for Christ. And some wear clothes that make them look more masculine than feminine, or dress like harlots instead of ladies. I have seen immodest inappropriate clothing worn even at some popular churches.

Don’t be fooled by the false glamour and sizzle woven into the culture in the form of magazines and various types of advertising, showcasing provocative distasteful clothing, and overdone make-up techniques that take away from the natural beauty of a woman. Globs of black mascara and heavy eye-liner look trashy. Keep your lifestyle simple, wear lovely clothing that is in good taste and reflects the beauty of God’s creation—you!

Especially for the Guys

Contrary to the in-your-face worldly propaganda, women also like to have a man who is not a run-around promiscuous type. Respect goes both ways. If you want the right kind of woman to respect you, then behave responsibly with dignity and valor. Be chivalrous and kind. Save yourself for your future wife and don’t get caught-up in the worldly dating and party scene.

And the sloppy “look” does nothing for any man—young or old, so don’t follow the trends; especially wearing oversized clothes that look like they are falling off you—forcing you to walk like some sort of loser.

When the timing is right, God will send you the right woman to spend the rest of your life with. The most attractive thing to a woman of all ages is a generous man who places the needs of others before his own, not someone who complains about having to work for a living or someone who does little or nothing to improve the quality of life for his family.

The well-being and welfare of a man’s wife and children should come before his own. No one likes a self-centered bully who cares primarily about himself and overreacts to every little thing for no good reason. One of the worst things you can do is speak harshly to your wife and children. A person who overreacts by shouting and yelling, instead of speaking calmly, is a person who has no self-control and has never grown-up.

All that is accomplished and created by this type of childish behavior is a stressful atmosphere in the home where no one will dare speak a word for fear of being admonished; all because of one self-righteous bully. And trying to prove how many beers you can slug down, is hardly the sign of manhood, it is a sign of stupidity and irresponsibility.

Countless families have been ruined by the abusive behavior of immature self-centered people.

Instead of being the spiritual leader God calls men to be, too many act like troubled adolescents. This is also true for some women, but it seems that men are strongly leading in this area.

Women want a man that they can depend on and lean on, a trusted protector, someone who will do whatever it takes to provide the best life possible for his family.

Be a gentleman, be generous, caring and thoughtful and you will be a happy man. If you make a woman feel really cared for, and do anything you can to make her life in this fallen world, better, then you will have her love and loyalty forever. Learn the following verse and when you follow this principle, your future wife will do anything she can to please you, too.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her” (Ephesians 5:23a).

The verse below teaches that if a man is not considerate and respectful of his wife, his prayers will be hindered. If a husband does not treat his wife with the love, honor, and respect that she deserves, his prayers are not very effective. It is beneficial to get into good habits and understand God’s principles and expectations long before taking marriage vows.

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Peter 3:7).

Encouragement for Everyone

If you have regrets and have made some mistakes you can repent and God will heal your emotional wounds. We cannot undo the past but in Christ we are a new creation and all things are new. Because of Him you will become righteous and pure in His eyes. Vow to only engage in physical relations with a lifelong partner sealed first with God’s marriage covenant.

Realize once you are saved and born-again by the Spirit of God you get your identity from Christ, not from the clothes you wear or the type of car you drive or who your friends are.

Becoming born-again in Christ totally frees you from the world’s entrapments. You are totally sufficient in Christ.

Nothing in this world can make you whole other than the Lord Jesus. A personal relationship with Him truly is the answer to all problems, including those painful low self-worth issues that the world just loves to fill our minds with. Jesus is the Great Physician who heals us from the wounds inflicted by the world.

If you are meant to get married, God has the right person in mind for you. He or she will be so glad you did not compromise yourself, and so will you. Never mind what your friends are doing. You may feel lonely sometimes, but that is when you can go to the Lord and spend time with Him. He will strengthen you to remain pure.

What matters is that you do your best to follow God’s principles. He has your best interests at heart. When temptation comes your way, God will always make a way out. And practice saying, “No.” :)

“Be not deceived: Evil companionships corrupt good morals” (1 Corinthians 15:33).

Godless Lifestyles

Another problem prevalent today is seeing celebrities setting ungodly examples having babies outside of marriage. These women parade around as if true commitment is irrelevant when bringing children into the world. It is as if having a baby outside the marriage covenant is a badge of honor proving some sort of self-indulgent point. And then the shocked masses wonder why these celebrities breakdown emotionally or overdose on drugs. Of course this way of life trickles down to the rest of society.

Instead of having strong bonded-families we find broken-lives and the children suffer the most. (Just what the devil ordered and loves.) The morality in the culture has broken down to a point where living together without marriage is considered the “norm.” Even some older folks—grandparents who are divorced or have been widowed, no longer abide by God’s marriage covenant, but instead, move in together (shack up).

This type of behavior sets a very poor example for their children, grandchildren and the rest of society. But few people seem to care. But God cares and He is a righteous God.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy” (John 10:10a).

The entire moral climate of this world is falling lower day by day. These lost souls are playing right into the devil’s plans to destroy families, ruin the lives of as many people as possible and keep individuals from coming to salvation in Christ. “If it feels good do it” was a slogan in the 1960s era. Today, it is a “given” regardless of the damaging consequences of this type of selfish reckless, “It feels good so do it,” behavior.

Something that is quite astounding is when mothers of teenagers try to dress like they are going out on the town to hit the dance clubs and bars, wearing tight short-shorts, and short skimpy tops revealing their stomach flab, their faces plastered with garish make-up strutting around as if they are onto something very “cool.”

I have seen this pathetic display of middle-aged vulgarity even at the local supermarkets. I feel sorry for the children of these mothers. If the mother, as a role model looks this disgraceful what chance does the daughter or son have to look, and behave in a godly manner?

Abstinence Is Powerful

Remember, as a born-again believer the Holy Spirit lives inside you and you are hurting Him as well as yourself if you get involved in a sexual relationship outside the marriage covenant.

Abstinence may not be popular by the world’s standards but you are worth far more than the “Here today, gone tomorrow” attitudes of those who are blindly stumbling through life. Chastity is a wonderful quality.

Stay away from those who want to cause you to compromise godly values. Sexual promiscuity destroys the moral fiber of a person and leaves many scars. Stay close to Jesus, always pray for protection from evil (often disguised as “fun”) and you will be greatly blessed.

King of Kings and Lord of Lords - Heralding His Soon Return, Kit R. Olsen, pp. 150-157, World Bible Society. .